Some of the lessons in life we will learn the hard way, just the way most humans learn most things—by trial and error. You touch the flame and pretty soon you figure out that the fire is hot. (Some folks heed the warning, some folks just have to urinate on the electric fence for themselves!)
We each will have setbacks in life. You may be rejected, neglected, perhaps drop the ball in the end zone of life. A baby doesn't fret when he falls, he quickly gets back up and goes on. We all make mistakes and endure failures and the cruel things others may do and say. That’s what other humans do, so don’t be too tough on yourself. Anybody who tells us they’ve had a life filled with nothing but success might be delusional or just trying to sell us an audio program.
Since we’re all going to have setbacks, we can take some risks in life. Seek what makes you happy and fulfilled. “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Find then follow your passion; do what you enjoy so long as it doesn’t impinge on the rights of others or inflict hurt and pain. Once you achieve enough financial security to provide for yourself and your family with the basics like food and shelter, there is little connection between increased wealth and more happiness.
Take responsibility for your own actions and cease blaming others when bad things happen. This also means don't go along with others who want you "to take accountability" or responsibility for what happened in their lives, they're just sociopaths.
Look in the mirror, examine how you can change and what you can do, but you can stop trying to change other people. Accept them for who they are. They can and will make necessary changes in due time, by themselves.
We cannot control everything, including when somebody we love leaves or dies. This can be excruciatingly painful. If unchecked, you may feel helpless. Understand you are not responsible for everything that happens in life. When you truly understand that, it can feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders.
When you have a setback, a loss, a sickness, be it physical or mental, an addiction or whatever, reach out to a friend, or anybody who cares about you. You need not feign appearing strong to the world, this doesn't make you strong. If you are vulnerable, you can share your vulnerability. That’s what friends are for. (They can help in another way if they can't help you out with money. If they won't help at all, they aren't your friend. Especially if you did a whole lot for them at one time.)
Count your blessings: be content with what you have , ... realise there is nothing lacking and the whole world belongs to you.
Lao Tzu.
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