Resisting Your Uniqueness
A third form of scarcity stuckness shows up in people who are often very love aligned. There are lots of artists, musicians, and lightworkers in this group. These are often people who are sensitive, kind, caring, artistic, creative, and typically introverted, but they have a hard time paying their bills. They love and trust many parts of life but have a tendency to retreat towards the spiritual and emotional side. They resist the character sculpting ability of the more grounded and authority-driven side of life. They resist being too different from everyone else, and this is the primary source of their stuckness.
Here's how these people often frame their challenges:
"The world doesn't align with my values. I hate borders. How can I have abundance when others don't? (But you being poor doesn't help them!) I feel guilty making money. Who am I to teach, sing, write, etc? I'm too sensitive. I can only handle so much of the world before I have to withdraw and be alone. I feel safest in my own private space. I love making music/art, but I can't make enough from it to live on. I get glimpses of abundance but they're not consistent.The world doesn't value what I'm good at. People don't care. I feel sad for the world. How do you deal with judgment/criticism? Everyone should be vegan and pious. I feel so alone sometimes. I feel like I don't belong on this planet.Why am I even here? Nobody wants to hear what I have to say and I'm not even sure I do either. I'm not good enough, my grandma said I did not deserve (such a nice dinner, to prevail, to win, to succeed, what-ever). Yeah, but I don't have enough money to do that. Can't you do it for less or make it cheaper 'cuz I'm a musician and don't make much money. I'll donate to charity when I have more money. I have no idea where to find my tribe, maybe they don't exist. Life can be pretty depressing sometimes."
The general nature of this form of stuckness is a resistance to one's own uniqueness, especially to one's unique values. A common pattern among the people in this group is that they're very sensitive to staying aligned with their values, but they feel the world is constantly violating their values too. They may try to engage with the world, but they always end up retreating.
These people value love, peace, and harmony, and they often feel saddened by the way the world is today. This is a form of resistance. They don't trust the world.
Many have dealt with past abuses of some sort. They wouldn't want to hurt anyone, often because they've been hurt badly themselves, and they may still feel a bit wounded inside. It's hard for them to trust life. So they keep their defenses up to some degree. Other people sense this and usually learn to leave them be. But deep down they still want to have a better relationship with the world or at least some subset of the people within it. They just don't know how.
What they are missing is a full embrace of their own uniqueness. The values that make them feel different are actually an incredible power source, but they don't see it that way. They mistakenly think the world is more powerful than they are, when their path to abundance is actually to push back against the world and powerful inject their values into this reality. They need to learn how to step up to the plate and lead themselves, perhaps lead others. They need to accept life's invitation to boldly go and be truly themselves.
The interesting thing is that when they finally get this and they basically say, " okay, I'm just going to be myself and if the world doesn't like it, tough!" And much to their surprise, they discover that when they finally do this, the world not only retreats from its former stance – it actually backs them up with an avalanche of love and support. The world says, "Finally you're being true to yourself. Finally you're stepping up and leading and creating the way you always wanted to. Finally you're seeing me as a teacher and not a bully!"
What these people don't see is just how much genuine appreciation life will lavish upon them when they begin to cultivate a more trusting and positive relationship with Life.
Your own empathy, compassion, and artist's soul will be some of your greatest gifts when you can finally assume your rightful leadership role in the world.
Bend the world to your values because your values are good, and the world needs them. Trust that life didn't put you in this situation to slink away and hide. Trust that life put you in this situation to open your heart. Now you just have to see through the illusion of fear, so you can take the next step.
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